James Herrick: The key to a successful farming marriage

Life has changed quite a lot since my last article.

Most farmers with arable crops have started an unprecedentedly early harvest and I have embarked upon a new chapter of my life – marriage.

Now I’m not claiming I know anything about being a good husband, but I know quite a lot about being a farmer and the challenges that lifestyle can bring to a marriage, so I’m hoping that will put me in good stead for the future.

I have been lucky enough to witness many successful farming marriages so thought I would share a few lessons I have learned from them.

If anyone has any additional advice on how to ensure a successful marriage in a farming situation, I am all ears.

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About the author

James Herrick

James Herrick is based on his family’s suckler beef and arable farm in Leicestershire. A passionate conservationist, he’s keen on using technology to maximise agriculture’s profitability and lessen its impact on the environment. Away from the farm he likes to compete in triathlons and endurance races.

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1. Communicate:

We’ve all been there, the phone rings: “How long till you’ll be back for tea?’ followed by the obligatory “about five minutes, I’ve only got to…”.

Two hours later, you’re scrubbed up to the nines in surgical spirits and iodine assisting the vet with a difficult calving, your dinner’s in the dog and your other half is beginning to boil over, due to not knowing where you are.

Such scenarios happen all too often, but one quick phone call can make all the difference in putting your spouse at ease.

2. Time off:

I know that to some I have just uttered the mother of all swear words, however time can be the greatest thing you can give to someone.

It doesn’t have to be three weeks in the Caribbean, maybe just insist that during a less busy period you take a weekend away, go for a day trip or even just a couple of hours in the cinema.

The place will not fall apart in your absence and some time away from the pressures of our industry could mean the world to your other half.

3. Laugh:

Farming is hard work and life is short.

We often find ourselves in stressful and financially challenging situations so having a bit of fun can make all the difference in tough times.

Crack a smile, be prepared to laugh at yourself and don’t take things too seriously.