Farm Doctor: How to spot signs of poor mental health

In February, Farmers Weekly’s Farm Doctor Camilla Baker shared her advice on maintaining good mental health while farming.

This month, she takes that further, explaining how to spot if a friend or loved one is struggling with their mental health, including the signs and symptoms of how this may present itself in others. 

See also: Farm Doctor: Tips on managing mental health for farmers

Get talking

“If you have a friend or family member who is experiencing poor mental health, it can be difficult to know how to best help and support them,” says Camilla.

“Most people will speak to friends or family members before seeking more professional help, so your support can be really valuable.”

When someone speaks to you about their mental health or wellbeing, Camilla says the most important thing is to listen, and to give them space to talk and open up.

It is important to stay calm and patient, as this will help the person feel safe enough to share their troubles.

“When talking with anyone who is struggling, accept them as they are without judgement, and be sure to keep checking in with them so they don’t feel isolated,” says Camilla.

“You can help them in practical ways, too. Encourage them to do things they enjoy, and offer to help with specific tasks such as giving lifts, helping with jobs at home or on the farm, or even helping with childcare.

“You may also want to help by attending appointments with your friend or family member, or helping them to write a list of questions for when they meet with a professional.”

What to look out for

Some common signs to look out for include:

• Struggling to eat a healthy, varied diet
• Neglecting their appearance or personal hygiene
• Mood changes, from very high to very low
• Changes in behaviour, including withdrawing from friends and family
• Poor concentration, irritability, tiredness
• Someone who mentions their lack of sleep.

“You may have an older family member or older friend or colleague you are worried about,” says Camilla. “Depression and poor mental wellbeing can present itself differently in people of all ages.

“Support them as much as you can and encourage them to talk about their feelings with you or a professional.

“Sometimes a simple phone call, dog walk, or dropping round a meal is enough to make someone feel less isolated. You may find it boosts your self-esteem, too.”

Seeking help

You might recognise low mood or poor mental wellbeing in someone, but they may not want to seek help.

“This can feel frustrating and overwhelming, however it is important to remember they are an individual,” Camilla says.

“You cannot force someone to talk to you, or force them to get help. It is also important to look after yourself and your own mental wellbeing in the process of helping others.”

If you are worried that a friend or family member may be experiencing poor mental health, encourage them to speak to their GP or seek help from services such as Samaritans, Age UK, Rabi, FCN or NHS 111.

If you are concerned they may be at risk because of their mental health, or that they may harm themselves, stay with them and call 999 or take them to A&E.